📅 Monday, 06-10-25
reading time: 3'25"
Over 75% of you know what you have to do.
But you just can't get yourself to do it.
Here's the poll:
I call BS
I think 75% of you are lying to yourselves
Here's why:
Clarity makes action easier
If you were truly clear on what you want to do, then doing the thing would feel lighter.
So if you’re struggling to act, it means you’re not actually that clear.
Either you haven’t broken it down into small enough steps, or you don’t have a strong enough reason to do it.
Basically the "What" is not that well defined, or the "Why" is not that motivating after all.
Most times, the “thing” you think you want to do is just borrowed.
Comes from FOMO, from what everyone else is chasing, or from general unhappiness with your current life which leads you to want to pursue "something" else.
Skill is a convenient excuse
But we almost never admit to ourselves that the "What" or the "Why" are the problem.
We tell ourselves: I know what to do, I just don’t know how... I lack the skills
We make it a skill problem.
We recognise that first we need to learn and get good at x y z.
It feels logical, but it’s lazy and false.
I actually blame the education system for this.
We were trained to always produce answers fast.
Memorize, repeat, get graded.
But life doesn’t work like that, there's no standardised answer that is a universal fit.
You’re supposed to test and discover.
Instead of training our brain to have answers ready and be able to jump to quick conclusions, I would have loved the education system to have taught me how to design experiments and discover solutions.
To be equipped for walking into the unknown with curiosity, not fear.
To be good at dealing with uncertainty.
But I'm just ranting now, sorry about that, I'm just still sore after having realised that the same skills that make you a good student at school are the ones that keep you stuck in life.
Back to the "skill excuse".
The point is that when we trick ourselves in having clarity, without actually really knowing the "What" and the "Why", we end up defaulting to blaming the "How".
So we do courses, and practice learning the skills in a curriculum.
Following the very same education blueprint that got us stuck.
It's a simple logic, and we find comfort in that.
But once you go through it and learn that skill, nothing changes.
I've been guilty of this far too many times.
Taught myself to code and changed my career... It was the wrong "What"
Obsessed on learning to draw from imagination and make impressive artworks... I had no real "Why"
I almost repeated the same error with youtube, thinking I had to learn film-making and wishing I had gone to film-school instead the useless degree I have and never used (Aerospace Engineering lol..)
Clarity comes from action
Here’s the paradox: you only know what to do after you’ve already started doing it.
Action creates clarity.
Taking action filters signal from noise.
It makes it clear what is worth your time, what actually matters to you, what you actually enjoy.
If you claim you already have clarity, then by definition you’re already in motion. You’re already doing the thing.
So if you’re stuck, admit it: you’re not clear yet.
Not clear about what exactly it is that you want to do.
Not clear about why exactly is it that you want to do it.
The way forward isn’t to wait for clarity.
It’s to move.
Do something small, shitty, but experimental.
Then stir the ship to navigate the waters you discover from there.
I've surrendered to pretending I know the path I want to follow in life.
But I'm committed to find out.
If you read this, hit reply and let me know where you're stuck at.
I **will** answer back.
🫶
Massa
P.s.
I am designing a 30 Days challenge
Just 20-30 minutes a day, with a clear checklist of what to do in each day
I want it to be as life changing as possible for anyone who reaches the end of it
But I need your help!
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P.p.s.
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